RMBA president Kieren Mallon says we spend a lifetime building for others — but our most important project is the life and legacy we build for ourselves.
In my last article (Building Today March 2025), I spoke about reconnecting with our why — the deeper purpose behind what we build and why we build it.
That sense of purpose fuels us through the prime of our careers, helping us navigate long days and the relentless nature of the industry.
But what happens when the tools get heavier, the pace and body slows, and we begin looking towards life after the last building is finished?
This question became painfully real for many of us last May when we lost one of our long-serving members, to suicide.
At his funeral, we heard about his craftsmanship, loyalty, and passion. But what struck me most was this: “He was due to retire yet had no idea what he was going to do next.”
He spent a lifetime building for others but hadn’t built a plan for himself beyond work. That truth hit hard.
Preparing for what’s next isn’t something to leave until the last moment — it’s something we must start shaping early while we’re still in the thick of our careers.
In Japanese culture, there’s a concept called ikigai — your “purpose in life”.
It’s the point where what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and what you can be valued for, all meet. It’s not just about making a living — it’s about making a life that truly matters.
For those of us approaching the latter part of our careers, ikigai can be a powerful compass. It’s not about stepping away from work — it’s about stepping into something even more meaningful.
Reframing the tools we hold
Our knowledge isn’t just valuable — it’s invaluable. Mentoring, community roles, advocacy — these aren’t side activities.
They are frames in a different kind of structure, one that supports the next generation.
Giving back doesn’t have to be overwhelming. It might be a conversation with an apprentice, a bit of encouragement to a struggling business owner, or lending your experience to shape better industry practices.
The time we give now could be the moment that changes someone else’s path.
From profession to purpose — and partnership
Rediscovering ikigai also means investing in relationships — not just with colleagues and crews, but with family, community, and ourselves.
Amongst other things, and for some, the Covid lockdowns showed us something — living closely with someone 24 hours a day, isn’t always easy. It shined a light on cracks we didn’t notice when life was busier.
Whether you’ve been married for decades or are rediscovering life together, now is the time to reinvest. Take walks. Talk openly. Laugh often. Seek support when needed.
Relationships, like structures, need maintenance, renovation and, sometimes, a new set of plans. True connection requires work, but the rewards are profound.
Well-being as a foundation
Taking care of our physical and mental health isn’t a luxury — it’s a foundation for the next chapter.
Walk more. Sleep better. Get the check-ups. Make space for yourself beyond the demands of business.
Community as legacy
Organisations such as the RMBA exist not just to support business success, but to foster connection and belonging.
Whether through your professional association, your local golf club, or community groups, these networks provide more than practical value — they offer support, purpose, and friendships that last beyond the worksite.
Use them. Champion them. Help strengthen them. Because strong communities build strong people.
What are you still meant to build?
The industry shaped your life — now you have the chance to shape its future.
Our careers don’t have to end — they can evolve. Perhaps our greatest contribution isn’t the homes or high-rises we’ve built, but the people we’ve mentored and the communities we’ve nurtured.
This isn’t a farewell, it’s an invitation. To rediscover purpose. To reconnect with yourself and those you love. To rebuild — this time, from the inside out.
Because the most enduring structures aren’t made from wood, concrete and steel — they’re made from care, connection, and contribution.
